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NEWS FLASH:  Sex Was God's Idea

The way some people act you might think they invented sex.

The way some religious people act you would think that people invented sex and God really didn't approve, but since it  is the only way to get more people, He kind of tolerates it.

The truth is GOD INVENTED SEX!  It was God's idea.  He created the feeling, emotions and even the physical pleasure of sex.  He didn't create a man and a woman, leaving the sex part to chance.  His creative purpose was in every aspect of mankind's being.

So what does that mean?  It means...

  • God created sex with a purpose just as He created everything with a purpose.

  • God intended his creation to enjoy the pleasures and blessing of the sexual relationship between a husband and wife.

  • God created us as sexual beings - male and female. 

  • Sex, when practiced within the guidelines laid out by God, is not dirty.

  • Our sexuality is a very powerful part of our lives, physically, emotionally and even spiritually.

  • That because sex is so powerful God had to put boundaries on it to protect people abuse.

People tend to think that God disapproves of sex.  This isn't true at all.  Remember it was His idea in the first place.

What God disapproves of is the misuse of sex.  Because it is so power, physically, mentally and even spiritually it has the power to destroy people as well as create new life. 

It is this very thing that God wanted to protect us from. Today people seem to think, "what's the big deal if we want to have fun?"

Because God created the concept of sex He also knows the potential dangers.  This is why he placed boundaries around it.  It wasn't to be a killjoy. It was so a man and a woman could enjoy the benefits and blessings of sex without the potential destruction.  Placed within the framework of a loving, committed (covenantal) relationship sex was to to be a powerful force to bond a man and woman together and keep them together.

Sex is a two edged sword.  There are physical, emotional and spiritual pleasures and benefits when practiced properly, but there are can also be physical, emotional and spiritual destruction when used improperly.

What God wants to protect you from:

  • AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases - faithful, loving married couples do not have to worry about this  - every year 3 million teens will get a sexually transmitted disease (STD).  Every day over 8000 teens will contract a STD. This is JUST teens and does not include 20-60 year olds who are sexually active.

  • From emotional destruction - how many children have been sexually abused?  How many young men and woman have had there lives ruined by a single sexual encounter?  How many marriages have destroyed by adultery.  How many children have been emotionally scarred by family breakups?  Sexual active girls are three times more likely to be depressed and sexually active boys at two times more likely to be depressed then their virgin peers.

  • Pregnancy - Over 1 million teen pregnancies occur each year - 85% are unplanned and over 40% end in abortion.  How many young women have had their lives changed by one night in the back seat of a car.  Don't think it can happen to you?  Neither did the other 1 million girls!  It costs our society over $7 billion dollars per year to pay for governmental services for unwed teen pregnancies.  80% of unwed teen mothers who choose to raise their child will live in poverty for the next 10 years,

  • Abortion - Nearly 1 million women have abortions each year.  Many of them suffer guilt and other emotional traumas for years afterwards. 

  • Broken marriages and families.  The stability of our culture and society is being destroyed by a divorce rate of over 50%.  Second marriages have a higher divorce rate.  The impact on men and women, not to mention children is devastating and continues to create widespread emotional and societal problems.

  • Sexual Assault - Every 2 1/2 minutes someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted.  There are over 200,000 rapes or attempted rapes each year and 1 in every 6 women  has been sexually assaulted and 44% of rape victims are under the age of 18.

  • Spiritual destruction - God says sexual immorality (in all forms, including homosexuality) is a sin and that there are spiritual consequences for sin, not only in this life, but in eternity. 

God does not want your life destroyed now or later. It is in His love and wisdom that He placed boundaries on the powerful issues of sexuality.

You can see that the improper use of sex not only causes untold misery for individuals and families, but has devastating effects that continue to trickle through our society. 

Like a wise father that warns his children about playing in the street, God warms His children about  the dangers of playing outside the moral boundaries He has put in place concerning sex.

And, like kids who think they know better then dear old dad how fun it is to play in the street, and how careful they will be, people ignore the warnings and suffer the consequences. Strangely enough, when something bad happens they find a way to blame God for it.

Pregnancy, rape, STDs, Abortion, Divorce ... Oh, I know, it could never happen to you.  Just ask the millions of other people who were sure it would never happen to them either.

To find out what God says about sex and sexuality in the Bible please read some of our other articles.


About the Author: Dr. Steve Highlander holds a doctorate in Pastoral Theology from Faith Bible College in Independence, MO.  and is a Certified Christian Counselor with the Association of Scriptural Psychology Therapists.  Dr. Highlander in is involved in mission work and serves as dean of Acts Ministry University, a new online bible College.  Steve and his wife Brooke, who holds a doctorate in Scriptural Psychology,   operate C3M Ministries.  C3M stands for Church in the Third Millennium and is dedicated to helping the church return to her New Testament moorings of faith and practice.  For free audio and print resources visit www.c3mministries.com.
 


 


What Does the Bible
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Quotations From the Bible

God doesn't have a problem with sex, He created sex and has told mankind that within the bounds of marriage that it was to be enjoyed by husbands and wives.

Here are some plain scriptures that warn us against sexual immortality

"Let marriage be held in honor by all, and let the marriage bed be kept undefiled; for God will judge fornicators (those who have sex outside of marriage) and adulterers."
Hebrews 13:4

"Shun fornication (sex outside of marriage). Every sin that a person commits is outside the body; but the fornicator sins against the body itself.
I Corinthians 6:18

"Do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived! Fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, male prostitutes, sodomites  (homosexuals) ónone of these will inherit the kingdom of God."
I Corinthians 6:9-10

"But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the polluted, the murderers, the fornicators (sexually immoral), the sorcerers, the idolaters, and all liars, their place will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death."
Revelation 21:8

"So God let them go ahead and do whatever shameful things their hearts desired. As a result, they did vile and degrading things with each other's bodies. Instead of believing what they knew was the truth about God, they deliberately chose to believe lies. So they worshiped the things God made but not the Creator himself, who is to be praised forever. Amen. That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other.  And the men, instead of having normal sexual relationships with women, burned with lust for each other. Men did shameful things with other men and, as a result, suffered within themselves the penalty they so richly deserved. When they refused to acknowledge God, he abandoned them to their evil minds and let them do things that should never be done. Their lives became full of every kind of wickedness, sin, greed, hate, envy, murder, fighting, deception, malicious behavior, and gossip."
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