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From a  24 year old woman ...

I got married when I was 18 to my boyfriend of 2 years, we were engaged but decided to go ahead and get married when we found out I was pregnant. I had a miscarriage a couple of months later and our marriage just seemed to fall apart and we decided to go our on way after being married only a year. Since then 5 years have passed and we have both dated other people and have now found our selves back in love and sure that we just made a mistake, but he now has a two year old child from a girl that he didn't even date. With this history out of the way my question is what is God's option on remarrying you ex husband? We have both never remarried but he does of a child now.. It is weighing heavy on my heart and I am not sure what to do."

Our Answer ...

Dear ____,

I think if you and your ex husband both submitted your lives to Jesus and determined to live together for him that God would honor and bless that.  You would both need to repent of your past sins and make fresh commitments to the Lord and each other.

If both of you don't do that, then it doesn't make any difference what God thinks, because He can't bless it anyway.  God can only bless people who are committed to Him, regardless if they have a church wedding or not.

We really can not go half way with God.  So the biggest question you have to answer is will you and your ex husband live for God.  If you want to and he doesn't then you should not rebuild the relationship because the Bible tells us not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.

I know the answer is somewhat short and pointed, but I don't want to bog you down with a long sermon.  If you would like to visit some more please feel free to reply to this email and I would be glad to keep visiting with you.

Above all keep this in mind:  Don't trade the eternal for the temporary.  Your soul is eternal, live this temporary life with eternity in sharp focus.  Here's a prayer for you ...

Father, I bring ____  to you and ask that you comfort her and speak to her.  Draw her to yourself.  Reveal yourself to her in a way that she knows you are real and involved in her life.  Even today Lord I ask that you make things significant to her.  Lord help her and her ex husband to love and serve you every day of their lives.  AMEN!

Well ______, please write back and let me know what is happening.

Pastor Steve